Beautify Your Character This Ramadan / The One Important Thing Everyone Forgets In Ramadan

Assalamu Alaikum everyone! Ramadan Mubarak! We all know the five pillars of Islam: Shahadah, Salah, Zakah, Sawm and Hajj. However, many people forget this Quranic verse, where Allah says:

“O Messenger of Allah! It is a great Mercy of God that you are gentle and kind towards them; for, had you been harsh and hard-hearted, they would all have broken away from you.”
(Quran 3:159)

This is so beautiful and the absolute truth. The reason that some of these people who were once non Muslims, who were once burying their daughters alive, who were once committing the filthiest acts, all came to Islam were because of the Prophet’s character. It is because of the Prophet’s warmth, kindness and love. The way the Prophet understood their struggles but taught them patience. The way the Prophet forgave others despite being hurt. The way the Prophet gave to the orphans and the needy. This was the beauty of his character that brought people to Islam.

One Surah that was sent down to beautify your character to the Prophet (pbuh) was Surah Hujurat. Here are some of the takeaways I learnt from this Surah through this beautiful lecture (linked at the bottom of the article) from Ustadh Abu Taymiyyah (May Allah bless him):

Surah Hujurat was sent down to adorn the people of faith with the best of etiquettes

The Prophet was sent to perfect our morals and teach us how to be kind.

There are two types of etiquettes: with Allah and with people

Once you fix the etiquettes with Allah and you please Allah, Allah will take care of what is between you and others because Allah changes the heart of people.

To fix etiquettes with people, we need to remember that we do not have a guarantee that our good deeds have been accepted. We are all humans who always need to better ourselves so we should be kind to each other.

Allah causes the righteous acts of people to disappear if you are doing sins behind closed doors.

You need to be righteous in front of people but also righteous with Allah behind closed doors. If you are faking it, then Allah will be displeased with you and will cause your sins to get exposed in front of others. These private sins will lead you to go astray.

The best way to be righteous both alone and in public is to do more righteous deeds alone than in public.

By doing more righteous deeds alone, you know that you are being sincere and you are not showing off to others. In Sha Allah, this will help to purify your intentions.

There are three reasons why Allah exposes your sins.

Allah gives you chances but after a certain point, He will expose your shortcomings. This is to act as a punishment, notification or as a lesson for the people.

If you want Allah to forgive you, forgive others.

Not only are you increasing your chances of Allah for forgiving you, but you also improve your character by doing so.

Don’t listen to tale carriers.

Tale carriers are those who spread rumours about others and separate between loved ones. This is a huge sin and it is prevalent today where couples are getting divorced, and this affects the future generations and their Islam.

There are six things every believer should do when there is a tale carrier.

Don’t listen to the tale carrier and don’t trust them, advise them, hate them for the sake of Allah as they are despised by Allah, don’t have bad thoughts about the victim whose rumours are being spread around about, don’t spy on one another and do not tell others what they said.

As part of good character, you can joke but you should follow these six conditions when joking.

Don’t mock the deen of Allah, don’t mock people, don’t lie, don’t shock people, don’t be excessive, choose the right time to joke.

Check out the lecture I gained the knowledge from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9y1NcEAO2g

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