how to feel happy alone – Surobi Scribbles https://surobiscribbles.com Every Small Scribble Can Turn Into Art Mon, 27 Nov 2023 09:54:55 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 https://i0.wp.com/surobiscribbles.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/cropped-Snapseed-1.jpg?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 how to feel happy alone – Surobi Scribbles https://surobiscribbles.com 32 32 194697337 Dear Teenagers When You Feel Lonely / #DearTeen Series 4 https://surobiscribbles.com/dear-teenagers-when-you-feel-lonely-dearteen-series-4/ Sun, 18 Sep 2022 20:05:40 +0000 http://surobiscribbles.com/?p=1629 It really hits. It really hits when you have had a wonderful childhood filled with family, friends and lots of candy. You have people all around you and you feel so supported and loved. There is nothing for you to care about. But all of a sudden, when you reach your teenage years, you reach the weekends and holidays and all you are told is to go to your room and study. You may have completed all your work and you really have nothing to do. You quickly feel this rush of loneliness overwhelm you and you find that you have no one to listen to. 

Perhaps this anger arises within you. Why can’t your parents be there for you? Why is your best friend always busy when you call them? Why can’t your siblings just help you once in a while? All these questions pop up in your head, and you can’t stop yourself. You tell yourself that you are lonely and you desperately need some friends to replace the gap you feel inside you.

But what if you just felt lonely? What if you just let yourself embrace loneliness? Unfortunately, many try to run away from the loneliness, and try to indulge in movies or memes. Perhaps some try to get into a relationship or make as many plans with their friends as possible to escape this feeling.

The reality you need to understand is that you need to enjoy your own company. The truth is that everyone feels lonely at some point in their life. Alhamdulillah, as a person who has always had amazing family members and a few friends with me constantly in my life with me, I have also felt lonely at times. Maybe it is during the weekends when you have no plans. Or maybe it is during exam season when you are locked into your room alone for hours to study. But you need to start enjoying your own company. 

Let yourself feel lonely and then go and do things that will make you feel happy long term. Always wanted to start a blog? Have that new recipe to try? Just start today and eventually you will discover more about yourself and love yourself more. Because the reality is that you are the only one who can understand yourself the most.

Of course, you should have people in your life who love you and love them back. However, you should only be hanging out with them to be with each other, not due to urgency so you don’t have to stay alone. Try to understand yourself first and then, if needed, then of course seek help and make plans with others.

I have started solo travelling, writing my blog and also practicing gratitude just to name a few of the things I do alone as a teenager. It makes me feel so happy and refreshed. Do what makes you happy long term. Let yourself feel lonely and make a piece of art with that loneliness.

With love,

Surobi

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