Perhaps this anger arises within you. Why can’t your parents be there for you? Why is your best friend always busy when you call them? Why can’t your siblings just help you once in a while? All these questions pop up in your head, and you can’t stop yourself. You tell yourself that you are lonely and you desperately need some friends to replace the gap you feel inside you.

But what if you just felt lonely? What if you just let yourself embrace loneliness? Unfortunately, many try to run away from the loneliness, and try to indulge in movies or memes. Perhaps some try to get into a relationship or make as many plans with their friends as possible to escape this feeling.

The reality you need to understand is that you need to enjoy your own company. The truth is that everyone feels lonely at some point in their life. Alhamdulillah, as a person who has always had amazing family members and a few friends with me constantly in my life with me, I have also felt lonely at times. Maybe it is during the weekends when you have no plans. Or maybe it is during exam season when you are locked into your room alone for hours to study. But you need to start enjoying your own company. 

Let yourself feel lonely and then go and do things that will make you feel happy long term. Always wanted to start a blog? Have that new recipe to try? Just start today and eventually you will discover more about yourself and love yourself more. Because the reality is that you are the only one who can understand yourself the most.

Of course, you should have people in your life who love you and love them back. However, you should only be hanging out with them to be with each other, not due to urgency so you don’t have to stay alone. Try to understand yourself first and then, if needed, then of course seek help and make plans with others.

I have started solo travelling, writing my blog and also practicing gratitude just to name a few of the things I do alone as a teenager. It makes me feel so happy and refreshed. Do what makes you happy long term. Let yourself feel lonely and make a piece of art with that loneliness.

With love,

Surobi

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Amongst our busy lives, it can be so easy to get caught up in worldly matters. When is the next train? When is the next exam? What is the next task to tick off? What is the next something?

Stop. Breathe in. Breathe out. You may need some time to really talk to yourself and question what you are doing. After this break, you may feel even more motivated and productive to start working. 

When should you stop? It is your choice. 

Maybe when you stop, you might get more motivation. 

Appreciate the fact that today we got to start a fresh new day. Appreciate the fact that we can breathe fresh air. Appreciate every cell flowing through our blood, through our working organs. Appreciate the fact that we have skin to protect ourselves internally. Appreciate that we are all different in our own ways.

But not only this.

Appreciate the fact that we also have low days. Appreciate those times when we feel upset, distraught, angry or worried. We have to appreciate every bit about ourselves. 

When we feel grateful, we realise that we have fully accepted ourselves, and when you accept yourself, the world will accept you.

Appreciate.

When you appreciate, you may feel revived. 

Have you ever been told that you have ‘anger issues’? Do you ever feel like you get angry too quickly? Is anger destroying precious relationships with others? Is anger breaking you down?

Anger. An emotion that is completely normal. Yet, it can destroy many seconds of your life that will never return. Anger is an emotion that controls some people. 

So, how can you fix this problem? How can you get out of anger’s clutches?

You can use the QUAC acronym, made by me.

QUAC stands for:

QU – Question Urself

Question yourself and why you feel angry, perhaps more regularly than before. Perhaps, it is because you might simply be tired, or it could be because you are going through some rough patches in your life.

A – Accept

Accept that you feel angry. Admit to it. This is because acceptance is half of all healing. 

C – Confront

You may have to remove things that trigger your anger and also find activities that help with your anger before it gets too worse.

For example, maybe you really do get angry when someone comments about your appearance. In that case, find out why you feel offended and don’t be afraid to tell the person politely that you dislike those types of comments as everyone here deserves respect. 

Before you feel angry, you could take some deep breaths in and out or maybe walk out of that situation. 

Remember, the strongest person is the person who can control their anger.

You may increase your happiness levels by reducing your anger. 

Everyone has their own fears, problems and obstacles. Everyone has their own tests and trials. Everyone is scared of doing something. It might be because you think it is unrealistic, you might feel stressed, uncertain or doubtful. Whenever you have the thought to confront your fear, someone inside you tells you ‘you can’t’. 

Who is this person telling you that you can’t? Why do you feel nervous or worried about your external factors? 

It is your devil. Everyone has a devil within them. It makes you doubt yourself and makes you uncertain about yourself. Why does this devil exist? Well, because this life is a test and it is not paradise. 

So how do you overcome this devil? How do you feel revived? The answer is, you have to find your inner source of happiness. You have to find the right way of confronting the fear.

For example, if you are afraid of public speaking, speak to the devil within you. Question yourself and accept this fear. Then take gradual steps to go ahead and solve this problem the right way.

What would your right, brave self do?

You Are Not Alone. You Got This.

It feels quite sad to me that in the day and age of the 21st century, when more people are supposed to be happier and healthier due to all the medical advancements, networks and facilities, there seems to be, in fact, more sadness. More people, even young teenagers feel lonely and helpless and don’t know who to seek help from. This is extremely saddening and loneliness is what can cause the downfall of many minds.

Especially with this COVID-19 pandemic, many people feel even more lonely than ever before.

But please do not think you are alone. You got this. You have neighbours right next to you, help at your fingertips and people to help you within a few seconds or minutes. Do not ever think that this is the end of the world. I am telling you, there have been many who have gone through the worst of the worst and have come out of it, so you can do it. You got this.

This problem is temporary. You just need to stop panicking, and work step by step. Gain help from others. And it is possible to get rid of problems.

You can be the first one to smile. You can be the first one to compliment people. You can be the first one to spread positive energy. You can be the first one to build a community of happiness.

You Got This.

If you need to, feel free to contact any of these helplines (help is not too far away):

https://www.childline.org.uk/

https://www.mind.org.uk/

https://www.kooth.com/

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